Settling Excercises
01: Coming Into the Room
Sit comfortably in a chair. Close your eyes and take a few
deep breaths.
Imagine you're floating in space. Below you, planet Earth
turns slowly.
Watch it turn for a few seconds.
Slowly descend until the part of the country you're in fills
your field of vision. Stay directly above it, like a GPS satellite,
so that it doesn't move beneath you.
Keep descending until you're looking down on whatever city,
town, mountain, valley, or other area your body is sitting in
right now.
Continue your descent until you're looking down at the top
of the building you're in. If you're seated outdoors, descend
far enough so that you can see your own body below, as if
you're viewing it from a helicopter.
Keep dropping slowly and steadily, until you can see your
body in detail, as if you're about ten feet above it. Observe
your body's posture, any movements it makes, and the
clothing it's wearing.
Slowly and smoothly, descend the rest of the way, and slip
inside your body.
For a few breaths, simply be aware of being in your body.
Relax and let the chair support you.
Then notice the sensation of the chair against your legs and
thighs.
Then notice how it feels against your back.
Open your eyes. Orient yourself by looking around you,
including behind you. Return to the here and now.
02: Squeeze and Hold
Stand or sit comfortably. Take a few breaths.
Feel into your body. Where does it seem constricted,
uncomfortable, or unwell in any way? Note each of
these locations.
Then, one location at a time, gently press your hand
against the uncomfortable spot, as if you are holding
it tightly in place.
For thirty to forty-five seconds, simply experience
that gentle pressure.
Then rub the spot, slowly and gently. If this feels
good, keep rubbing for thirty to sixty seconds. If it
doesn't, stop.
Next, gently squeeze and hold that spot. If squeezing
it feels good, continue for thirty to sixty seconds. If it
doesn't, stop.
Do this for each part of your body where there is
pain, constriction, or distress.
Use this activity whenever a part of your body feels
uncomfortable.
03: Touching Your Discomfort
This activity is an especially helpful way of teaching your body
to settle during times of stress or difficulty.
Think of a moderately painful--but not traumatic--incident
from your past.
Then, for just five seconds focus your attention on a painful
aspect of that incident. As you do, notice all the sensations in
your body. Also notice what thoughts, images, and emotions
arise--without responding to them in any way.
Without disengaging from that incident or from your body,
practice breathing, grounding, and resourcing the anchors.
Feel your body as it relaxes and settles.
Then let go of the incident from your past. Return to the here
and now.
If a part of your body feels sore, tight, or strange in some way,
simply put your hand on it and support it for a few seconds.
Practice this activity every day or two. Over time, slowly
increase how long you stay with the painful memory until you
are able to relax and settle while experiencing it for a minute
or more.